Who would have ever imagined the word, “slut” would create such a national stir? Leave it to conservative radio talk show host, Rush Limbaugh to create a firestorm by referring to Georgetown Law student, Sandra Fluke as a “slut” when she testified in front of congress, trying to make a case as to why taxpayers should pay for her birth control.
Most of the people attacking Rush Limbaugh for his use of the term “slut” think it’s not a nice thing to say. Perhaps, the words — trollop, tramp, or strumpet might have been better? How else would you describe a woman with loose morals and tells the world that she sleeps around. Rush Limbaugh was attacked vehemently because he spoke the truth…
but he also made a judgement! Oh no! That’s not acceptable. He violated one of the most sacred of politically correct principles, “Thou Shalt Not Judge.”
When I was in high school, I read the Scarlet Letter in my AP English class. If you haven’t read it, you should. It is a story about a married woman named Hester Prynne, who commits adultery and has a daughter from this liason, and how the Puritanical society of 17th century Boston punishes her for this moral crime. Adultery wasn’t tolerated in Hester’s world. She was forced to wear a gold letter “A” and she and her daughter were outcasts. It was a commentary by Nathaniel Hawthorn on the severe religiosity of the Puritans.
Fast forward to the mid-20th century: The birth control pill becomes approved in 1960 for contraceptive use. The counterculture movement brought free love and free sex. Adulterers were not branded with letters, but divorce was still frowned upon, and proper women did not broadcast their sex lives.
Last month, The New York Times bears news that “For Women Under 30, Most Births Occur Outside Marriage.” I remarked sadly that this was the new norm. When I was growing up, young women hid their pregnancy if they weren’t married. Now, high school students are provided childcare for their babies. A loosening of morals, have also brought about a change in the vernacular. Even the language is less judgemental as pointed out by Charles Murray, author of Coming Apart.
As for living together without being married and having babies without marrying the father, language alone conveys their change in status over the years. People used to shack up; now they cohabit. The woman used to have a bastard, then an illegitimate child; now she has a nonmarital birth.
Murray says people do not challenge trashy behavior, but instead it is often imitated and placated.
… four-letter words were unknown in public discourse and among the elites and were used sparingly even in private discourse. Today, vulgar language knows no class, sex, age or place. As late as 1960, sleeping with one’s boyfriend was mostly a lower-class thing. It was deemed sluttish and something to be kept secret; today it’s open and assumed to be normal… In some instances, unwed mothers proudly hold baby showers celebrating their illegitimate offspring.
A very significant statistic in the New York Times article about unwed mothers must be highlighted:
- 92 percent of college-educated women are married when they give birth.
So while the college-educated women decided to wait till they got married to have children, they were giving approval to others birthing illegitimate children. The elite class is smart enough to realize that an intact family is best for a child, but smiled when those of the underclass gave births outside of marriage.
Murray urges the elites to “preach what they practice.” Even though the connection is not made clear with Fluke’s controversial birth control testimony, the easing of sexual morals have produced more illegitimate children. And the statistics bear out the fact that children born to single mothers are at higher risk for poverty, drug addiction, and even incarceration. Speak out against out of wedlock births.
We should speak against the hook-up culture and tell women when they are being sluts.
I subscribe to the idea that silence is tacit approval and latent complicity. When we don’t speak out, we allow deviancy to be defined down as the late great Daniel Patrick Moynihan said.
When we show disapproval, it doesn’t mean we are perfect. It just means we care about what is happening to our society.
Honestly, how proud would we have been if Sandra Fluke was our daughter?